Judgments and defensive reactions keep us separate from our inner selves. They are a sign that our ego is in control. Practice viewing situations from a place of neutrality and non-resistance.
Buddhist philosophy refers to this as equanimity; a nonreactive viewpoint where you see what is happening without getting caught in it. It's realizing that thoughts, emotions, situations and circumstances come and go, so there is no need to become attached or reactive. This state of being is calm and empowering. Reciting the mantra, “This too shall pass,” will help you to stay neutral.