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Most of us know about Darwin’s survival of the fittest.  Typically, this is associated with selfishness.  To survive means I have to take care of me and my needs first.  However, Darwin, who studied human evolution, did not actually see our DNA as being competitive and selfish.  In fact, he believed that humans are hard-wired kind and caring, and that is how we survive as a species. Furthermore, there is scientific evidence that being kind is good for your health.

Kindness helps us relate and become more empathetic to others.  While this will improve our relationships with others, there are also science-backed ways to improve your health through kindness.  

Kindness is a hormone-booster – When you do something nice for others, you feel better, too.  Being kind boosts your serotonin and increases endorphins that make you happier and ease your anxiety and stress levels.  I even found one study that found adults between the ages 57 – 85 who volunteered had lower levels of inflammation in their bodies……and inflammation has been linked to diabetes, cancer, chronic pain, and migraines.  Kind acts have the power to impact our physical health, mental health, and collective well-being. 

If there is any doubt that kindness make us happy, think for just a minute about a time when you offered kindness to someone.  Notice how that makes you feel.  

Now bring to mind a time when you feel you could have been kinder.  Notice the difference in how you feel.  

I know which feeling makes me happier.